I was told today by a friend that a persons music describes their feelings. So I looked at the current playlist I listen to constantly and pulled the lines from it I think best fit. (P.S. I do think my music describes my feelings, I knew that before she said that comment)
- What do we know……
- I can feel you all around me……
- so far away from where you are/ I miss you…..
- Theres something that i cant quite explain, im so in love with you/ I will keep calling you to see if you’re sleeping are you dreaming? if you’re dreaming are you dreaming of me?….
- its a mad world…..
- I was so scared of everything/amazing grace/cause I’m addicted,I’m needy…..
- You’re the one I need.,…..
- Oh My God….
- Lost in a sea of faces…
- How long have i been in this storm, waters getting to hard to tread, if i could just see you, everything would be all right…..
- Two days and I’ve not slept a wink/who knows what I’ve been thinking/ i just want to wake up in someone else’s arms….
- When I find myself in times of trouble/let it be….
- A hundred days have made me older since the last time that I saw your pretty face/but all the miles that separate, disappear when I’m dreaming of your face/I’m here without you baby but your still on my lonely mind I’m here without you baby bit your still with me in my dreams……
- There is a river that washes you clean….
- And I don’t want the world to see me cause I don’t think that they’d understand, I just want you to know who I am…..
- Amazing grace/hallelujah grace like rain falls down on me……
- I would have stayed up with you all night, if I’d known how to save a life……
- How can i stand here with you and not be moved by you/cause your all i want, you’re all i need you’re everything everything….
- So many things I wish that I could say/are these memories that have over taken me, once again I’m right her on my knees/I’m barely hanging on, with all these empty feelings, I’m hurting in so many ways, although i cant began to understand the reasons i still believe that your God….
- Theres so much I want to say to make it easier/let me wipe away your tears/I’m here tonight…..
- Into the ocean end it all/I wanna swim away but don’t know how…..
- Missing you like crazy, I feel a million miles away, a part of me is empty that no one could replace and so i run to you despite the pain i leave it all behind, I’m on my way home/I’m running back to you.
the slashes show a break in the song where i jump from line to line, the commas simply are a pause in a continuation of lines. I realize now that these make more sense when you hear them in the songs, and they sound better.
BONUS POINTS IF YOU CAN NAME EVERY SONG (or even a song or two) THAT IS IN MY LIST
I was talking with a friend last night about standards, and expectations and I was surprised with what was coming out of my mouth and what I was saying. I realized that there is a lot to be said about standards vs. expectations, so I’m gonna have a nice little (that will probably end up big) blog post about them.
Standards- A Standard is something that is a realistic all encompassing thing/view. It’s not necessarily what you do, or what someone else does but more about all of what you say, do and are. It’s also how you do and say things, not just what you do or say and are. It’s a lot like a value.
Expectations- Expectations are something that come with standards. When you have a standard you show it by what you expect and do. Your expectations come with standards not the other way around.
An example
My standard might be that my future/current girlfriend/spouse pursues a relationship with God.
(this could easily be reworded to say “I value a girl who has pursues a relationship with God”)
The expectations could (key word COULD not would or are) be
- She prays on a reguar basis
- She reads her Bible regularly
- She goes to church
- She asks herself “What Would Jesus Do?” in situations
See, the standard is kind of like a value, its the big picture, the expectations come from trying to follow that standard. Another big thing that helps with this is to think about the fact that expectations can chance. Expectations might change with your life but standards do not.
For example
You might have the same standard as mentioned above but the expectations might change because of how your life is at the time.
For example your expectation that you go to church might change because you have to work on Sunday mornings. Now it would be hard to expect someone to go to a Sunday morning service when they work during that time and so it’s not an option. So the expectation might change to something like “She is an active member of a small group in order to be learn about God.”
See that’s the other thing. The expectations have to go with standards. You can back up your expectations with your standard. Though you might not go to church you might go to a small group and you can say “I go to this small group because I want to be fed and learn about God even though I’m not going to church. I’m pursuing my relationship with Christ.”
If you have expectations but no standards it can be problematic. Then your expectations become the only goal and you don’t know why you have them as goals and expectations. This can cause you or a relationship to be unhealthy. Say your job changes so you have to work Sunday mornings and your expectation was that you go to church. If you only have that expectation but no standard you might get mad at yourself for not being able to go and mad at your work for not allowing you to, but you don’t try and solve it or even work through it and figure out why you had this expectation. You view it like this “I’m not going to church, I’m not meeting my expectation. I’m mad at myself. I’m mad at my work because they are making me skip church. What can I do about it? Nothing, I can’t go to church on Sunday…. to bad”
This is why you have to have standards and with that set expectations that change to fit your standards and your life.
P.S. High standards are good (if they are realistic). High expectations are not (though this might be argued, especially if you’re open to change)
P.S.S. Whatever happened to “What Would Jesus Do?”? Was it to cliche? It is something important that I never hear or see around anymore, which is kind of sad. Hmmm… Just a thought!
